song in my head—”Take Lots With Alcohol” by Alkaline Trio
We are very good at focusing on the bad.
We might receive ninety-nine compliments in a day, but remember only the one negative word spoke towards us.
That book you published on Amazon? Ninety-nine 5-star reviews. So why does that lone one-star chew at your brain like a termite?
A co-worker we enjoy being around and have much in common with disagrees with us on one thing. Why do we feel the sudden urge to write them off completely?
The truth of the matter is that our brains have a negativity bias. It’s actually easier to remember bad news. So today, do your best to remember the good. Write it down if you have to. Create positive mantras for yourself that counteract the negative. Focus on your strengths and let your weaknesses be stepping stones to growth, rather than the things that trip us up.
And as you find the positive, make sure to pay it forward. Because if one voice can drown out the ninety-nine, the last the you want to be is that one.